Books
Books have the power to inspire, heal, and transform lives, and at Innergiving, we believe in the profound connection between personal growth and meaningful giving. Our platform features a carefully selected collection of books that align with our mission—covering topics like mindfulness, emotional well-being, purpose-driven leadership, and the power of generosity. These books serve as both a resource and a companion for those seeking deeper self-awareness while supporting causes that matter. Through reading, reflection, and shared wisdom, we invite our community to explore new perspectives and enrich their journey of inner and outer giving. Sorted in alphabetical order.
A Life for a Life ➤ Kevin Shird ➤ In "A Life for a Life," Kevin Shird offers a powerful and raw memoir that doubles as a social commentary on the American justice and mental healthcare systems.
The book follows two men—Shird, who is working to overcome his own past trauma while incarcerated, and his former cellmate, Damion Neal, a young man with undiagnosed mental illness. Shird’s journey of self-healing contrasts sharply with Neal's tragic descent, culminating in a heinous crime, leading Shird to explore how society's failure to provide adequate mental health support to incarcerated individuals perpetuates cycles of violence and recidivism. The book makes a compelling case for the critical need to address unresolved trauma and provide mental healthcare to those in the prison system and underserved communities, arguing that it is essential for the health of all of society.
All the Way to the River ➤ Elizabeth Gilbert ➤ "All the Way to the River: Love, Loss, and Liberation" by Elizabeth Gilbert is a raw, deeply personal memoir chronicling her love affair with Rayya Elias, who was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2016.
Gilbert recounts how their relationship intensified into passion, dependency, and addiction—both hers around love and sex, and Rayya’s around substances—and how they both spiraled amidst grief and suffering. After Rayya’s death in 2018, Gilbert reflects on her own addiction, codependency, and heartbreak, ultimately charting a path toward recovery, spiritual awakening, and finding a more grounded relationship with herself.
Anxious Attachment and Avoidant Detachment ➤ Richard Bank ➤ In "Anxious Attachment and Avoidant Detachment," Richard Banks explores the dynamics of adult romantic relationships through the lens of Attachment Theory, specifically focusing on the push-pull cycle between individuals with anxious and avoidant attachment styles.
Banks argues that while these two styles are often instinctively drawn to each other, their fundamental conflict—the anxious partner craving intimacy and closeness, while the avoidant partner fearing engulfment and seeking distance—creates a predictable pattern of distress, misunderstanding, and emotional turmoil. The book offers a compassionate framework for understanding the core fears and defense mechanisms of both styles, providing actionable insights and strategies for readers to recognize their own patterns, regulate their emotional responses, break out of these damaging cycles, and move toward healthier, more secure attachment in their relationships.
Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control ➤ Heather T. Forbes, LCSW and B. Bryan Post ➤ In "Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control," Heather Forbes and B. Bryan Post challenge traditional, fear-based parenting methods, arguing that they are ineffective and even harmful for children who have experienced trauma, attachment challenges, or adversity.
The authors present a "love-based" approach, emphasizing that a child's challenging behaviors—such as defiance, aggression, or lying—are not a result of manipulation or a desire to be difficult, but rather a dysregulated nervous system responding to past stress. The book provides a detailed neurological framework for understanding the impact of trauma on the brain and offers practical, compassionate strategies to help parents move away from cycles of control and punishment toward fostering secure attachments, building trust, and creating a safe, loving environment where healing can truly begin.
Bittersweet ➤ Susan Cain ➤ In "Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole," Susan Cain explores the universal human experience of sorrow, longing, and bittersweetness, arguing that these emotions are not merely negative feelings to be avoided but are, in fact, essential components of a rich and creative life.
Drawing on psychology, spirituality, and a wide range of artistic examples, she contends that a bittersweet sensibility—a simultaneous awareness of joy and sorrow, and an understanding that all things are impermanent—can be a profound source of meaning, connection, and even transcendent joy. Cain challenges the cultural pressure to relentlessly pursue happiness and instead shows how embracing our feelings of longing and sadness can unlock our creativity, empathy, and a deeper appreciation for the world, leading to a more complete and compassionate existence.
Brain Energy ➤ Christopher M. Palmer, MD ➤ In "Brain Energy," Dr. Christopher Palmer proposes a revolutionary theory that mental illnesses—including depression, anxiety, ADHD, bipolar disorder, and even schizophrenia—are fundamentally metabolic disorders of the brain.
Drawing on decades of research, he argues that problems with how brain cells produce and utilize energy, particularly involving the mitochondria, are at the root of psychiatric conditions. Palmer connects mental health to a wide range of metabolic issues like diabetes and obesity, and demonstrates how factors like genetics, inflammation, hormones, stress, and trauma all ultimately impact brain metabolism. The book offers a new framework for understanding mental illness and highlights the potential of metabolic interventions, such as dietary changes, to promote long-term healing and improve overall mental well-being.
Dealing with Feeling ➤ Marc Brackett ➤ In "Dealing with Feeling: Use Your Emotions to Create the Life You Want," Marc Brackett, the author of "Permission to Feel," provides an essential guide for regulating how we respond to our emotions in order to transform our lives.
He argues that our success in nearly every aspect of life—from our career to our relationships—is determined by how we deal with our feelings. The book explores the latest science of emotion regulation and provides a set of practical, evidence-based strategies to help readers use their emotions wisely. Brackett emphasizes that there are no "bad" emotions, only emotions we don't understand, and that by honing our emotional regulation skills, we can increase our chances of success and lift up those around us.
Energy Rising ➤ Dr. Julia DiGangi ➤ In "Energy Rising," neuroscientist Julia DiGangi argues that our emotions are not mysterious, passive feelings but rather a form of energy—a source of vital information that we can learn to understand and work with to improve our lives.
She posits that by becoming skilled in "emotional competence," we can learn to navigate complex social situations, make better decisions, and achieve our goals. DiGangi presents a brain-based framework for understanding and managing this emotional energy, helping readers recognize the patterns of their own nervous systems. The book provides a practical guide to mastering emotional responses, advocating for a shift from being a victim of our feelings to using them as a powerful resource for personal growth and well-being.
Grounded Spirituality ➤ Jeff Brown ➤ In "Grounded Spirituality," Jeff Brown challenges the pervasive notion that true spirituality requires transcending or bypassing our human experience, including our emotions, stories, and physical bodies.
Through a candid exploration of his own spiritual journey and a compelling dialogue, Brown argues that much of what is called "spiritual" is often a patriarchal, disembodied approach that encourages avoidance of our deeper selves and unresolved trauma. Instead, he advocates for an "enrealed" and integrated path—a "whole-being awakening" that fully embraces our messy, imperfect humanness, recognizing that authentic spirituality is found not by escaping reality, but by deeply rooting ourselves in our bodies, feelings, relationships, and the Earth, allowing us to find profound meaning and purpose in our everyday lives.
Healing in Your Hands ➤ Kate Truitt, PhD ➤ In "Healing in Your Hands," Dr. Kate Truitt introduces the powerful therapeutic technique of Havening as a neuroscientifically-grounded method for self-healing from traumatic stress.
She explains how Havening, through a specific form of therapeutic touch, helps to "depotentiate" or un-link the emotional charge from traumatic memories, thereby calming the amygdala and promoting brain-level change. Truitt argues that traumatic memories are stored differently than ordinary ones and that this simple, self-applied technique can re-wire the brain's neurocircuitry to build resilience, restore a sense of safety, and process past traumas, empowering individuals to reclaim their well-being and thrive. The book provides a practical guide, making the principles and practices of this somatic-based therapy accessible for anyone to use for self-regulation and healing.
Healing: Our Path from Mental Illness to Mental Health ➤ Thomas Insel, MD ➤ In "Healing," Dr. Thomas Insel, the former director of the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), offers a powerful critique of the current mental healthcare system in America, arguing that despite significant scientific advances, the country has failed to effectively treat and support millions of people with serious mental illness.
He contends that the system is fundamentally broken, focusing on short-term symptom management with medication rather than long-term recovery. Insel outlines a new vision for mental healthcare based on what he calls the "three P's": People, Place, and Purpose. He argues that genuine healing requires a person-centered approach that builds trusting relationships, creates safe and supportive living environments, and helps individuals find meaning and purpose in their lives, ultimately calling for a grassroots revolution to reform a system that has failed so many.
How to Do the Work ➤ Dr. Nicole LePera ➤ In "How to Do the Work," Dr. Nicole LePera, known as "The Holistic Psychologist," argues that many people remain stuck in self-sabotaging patterns due to unaddressed childhood experiences and trauma that lead to dysfunctional mind-body responses.
Frustrated by the limitations of traditional therapy, she presents a holistic approach that empowers individuals to become their own healers by recognizing these ingrained patterns, understanding their origins, and actively engaging in daily practices to regulate the nervous system, challenge limiting beliefs, reparent the inner child, and build conscious habits. The book provides practical tools and exercises to foster self-awareness, emotional maturity, and the creation of a more authentic, joyful, and fulfilling life.
How to Raise a Viking ➤ Helen Russell ➤ In "How to Raise a Viking: The Secrets of Parenting the World's Happiest Children," Helen Russell, a British expat raising a family in Denmark, explores the unique parenting philosophies of Nordic nations.
Through personal anecdotes and cultural observations, Russell highlights how practices like extensive outdoor play in all weather, later formal schooling, a strong emphasis on independence and trust, and a collective community mindset contribute to the renowned happiness and resilience of Nordic children. The book delves into various aspects of Danish child-rearing, from parental leave and school structures to screen time and social customs, offering a refreshing and often humorous look at how incorporating a "Viking" approach can foster well-adjusted, confident, and emotionally intelligent individuals.
How to Walk Away ➤ Katherine Center ➤ In "How to Walk Away," Katherine Center tells the story of Margaret Jacobsen, a high-achieving young woman whose seemingly perfect life is shattered by a catastrophic accident on her wedding day that leaves her paralyzed and facing a daunting recovery.
Stripped of her independence and engaged to a man who quickly abandons her, Margaret is forced to confront her deepest fears and reinvent her future. The novel follows her emotional and physical journey as she navigates an adversarial relationship with a tough but compassionate physical therapist, learns to accept help from her estranged sister, and discovers that true strength lies not in perfection or control, but in vulnerability, resilience, and finding love and purpose in a life radically different from the one she had planned.
I Can Fix This ➤ Kristina Kuzmic ➤ In "I Can Fix This," Kristina Kuzmic, a popular parenting personality, shares a humorous and heartfelt guide to navigating the messiness of modern family life by letting go of the need for perfection.
She challenges the overwhelming pressure parents feel to be flawless and argues that trying to "fix" everything for our children, our partners, or ourselves is a futile and exhausting endeavor. Through relatable anecdotes and tough-love advice, Kuzmic encourages readers to embrace imperfection, find joy in the chaos, and shift their focus from fixing problems to building resilience, connection, and a deeper sense of self-acceptance, both for themselves and their families.
I Don't Want to Talk About It ➤ Terrence Real ➤ In "I Don't Want to Talk About It," psychotherapist Terrence Real argues that depression is a silent epidemic among men, often manifesting not as overt sadness but as "covert depression" expressed through typically male behaviors such as workaholism, anger, addiction, and emotional distance.
He contends that men are conditioned by societal norms to suppress vulnerability and emotional pain, leading them to hide their true struggles, often perpetuating cycles of abuse and disconnection within families. Real offers a groundbreaking framework for understanding and addressing male depression, providing insights and tools for men to unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break free from this "secret legacy."
iGen ➤ Jean M. Twenge ➤ In "iGen," Jean Twenge argues that the generation born between 1995 and 2012 (iGen or Gen Z) is fundamentally different from previous generations, largely due to their unique upbringing in a world dominated by smartphones and social media.
Based on extensive data analysis, Twenge contends that this super-connected generation is growing up more slowly, spending less time on in-person social activities, and experiencing unprecedented levels of anxiety, depression, and loneliness. While acknowledging some positive trends like increased tolerance and a focus on safety, the book primarily highlights how the pervasive digital environment has shaped their behaviors, attitudes, and overall well-being, leading to a generation that is less rebellious, more risk-averse, and potentially less prepared for traditional markers of adulthood.
InnSæi ➤ Hrund Gunnsteinsdottir ➤ "InnSaei: Heal, Revive and Reset with the Icelandic Art of Intuition" by Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir explores the concept of Innsæi—an Icelandic word that means both "the sea within" and "to see within"—as a modern solution to the challenges of an increasingly complex and distracted world.
The book argues that by cultivating our intuition, empathy, and a deep connection to ourselves and others, we can navigate a world overwhelmed by technology and data. Drawing on interviews with neuroscientists, artists, and thought leaders, Gunnsteinsdóttir emphasizes that while external progress is often prioritized, true innovation and well-being come from an inner journey, urging readers to quiet the noise, listen to their inner wisdom, and foster a more humane and sustainable future.
Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS) ➤ Richard C. Schwartz, PhD ➤ In "Introduction to Internal Family Systems," Richard Schwartz presents his groundbreaking therapeutic model, IFS, which posits that the human mind is naturally comprised of various "parts" or sub-personalities, much like an internal family.
These parts, including protective "Managers" and "Firefighters" and vulnerable "Exiles" carrying past pain, often operate in conflict, leading to internal distress and dysfunctional behaviors. Schwartz introduces the concept of the "Self," an innate core of wisdom, compassion, and calm residing within every individual. The book guides readers to access this Self and, with its innate qualities, relate to their internal parts with curiosity and empathy, helping them to "unburden" from extreme roles and integrate into a harmonious internal system, ultimately fostering healing and greater well-being.
It's Not Your Fault ➤ Alex Howard ➤ In "It's Not Your Fault," Alex Howard challenges the conventional understanding of chronic health conditions, particularly those often labeled as "functional" or "medically unexplained" like ME/CFS, fibromyalgia, and Long COVID.
Drawing from his own extensive personal experience overcoming chronic illness, as well as his clinical work and research, Howard argues that these conditions are frequently rooted in an overactive, dysregulated nervous system, often a legacy of unresolved stress, trauma, or emotional overload accumulated over time. He emphasizes that the symptoms are not "in your head" but are real physiological manifestations of a body stuck in a chronic state of fight-or-flight. The book provides a hopeful and empowering framework, shifting blame away from the individual and offering practical, evidence-based tools for nervous system regulation, self-compassion, and ultimately, healing and recovery.
Letting Go ➤ David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. ➤ In "Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender," David R. Hawkins presents a powerful and practical method for achieving emotional freedom and higher states of consciousness by consciously surrendering resistance to negative emotions.
He argues that rather than suppressing, repressing, or merely expressing feelings, true release comes from acknowledging, allowing, and "letting go" of the energy behind them. Hawkins introduces a "Map of Consciousness," illustrating how releasing lower, harmful emotions like guilt and fear allows individuals to ascend to higher, more positive states such as love, joy, and peace, ultimately leading to improved well-being, health, and a more fulfilling life.
Love to Learn ➤ Isabelle C. Hau ➤ In "Love to Learn," Isabelle Hau argues that despite advances in technology, the fundamental key to a child's healthy development, resilience, and lifelong learning lies in nurturing, positive relationships.
She highlights a "relational scarcity" in modern childhoods, characterized by smaller families, reduced intergenerational contact, less free play, and increased screen time, all of which hinder the formation of crucial bonds. Hau proposes a "relationship-centered learning" paradigm, moving away from purely child-centered approaches, and advocates for prioritizing love and connection as essential literacies. Weaving in neuroscience, technology, and inspiring stories, the book offers a hopeful vision for transforming how we raise children, structure early learning environments, and build care-filled communities, ultimately emphasizing that love is the essential ingredient for unlocking every child's potential.
Man's Search for Meaning ➤ Viktor E. Frankl ➤ In "Man's Search for Meaning," Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, recounts his experiences in Nazi concentration camps and details his psychotherapeutic method, logotherapy.
Frankl argues that even in the most horrific and dehumanizing circumstances, individuals can find meaning in life through three primary ways: purposeful work, love, and courage in the face of suffering. He posits that the primary human drive is not pleasure or power, but the "will to meaning," and that suffering, while unavoidable, can be transformed into a profound opportunity for personal growth and discovering purpose, ultimately asserting that what truly matters is not what we expect from life, but what life expects from us.
Midlife Emergence ➤ Jen Berlingo ➤ In "Midlife Emergence," psychotherapist and coach Jen Berlingo offers a compassionate and insightful guide to navigating the midlife transition, reframing it not as a crisis to be endured but as a profound opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
Berlingo argues that this stage of life is a "call to soul" where old identities, societal expectations, and unfulfilled desires rise to the surface, prompting a necessary and transformative re-evaluation of one's purpose and values. The book provides a structured framework, drawing on psychology, mythology, and personal stories, to help individuals move beyond the "midlife chasm" of confusion and discontent and into a more authentic, integrated, and purposeful second half of life.
Mindful Relationships ➤ B Grace Bullock ➤ In "Mindful Relationships: Seven Skills for Success," B. Grace Bullock, drawing on decades of research in neuroscience, psychophysiology, psychology, and contemplative science, argues that chronic stress significantly undermines our well-being and the success of our relationships.
She explains how stress dysregulates the mind, body, and brain, leading to unhelpful primal defense strategies like aggression or withdrawal, and hindering crucial communication and coping skills. Bullock introduces the "BREATHE" model, an evidence-based framework providing practical tools and seven essential skills to alleviate stress, increase self-awareness, self-regulation, and emotional intelligence, ultimately cultivating resilient social bonds and fostering healthier, more harmonious personal and professional relationships.
More Human ➤ Rasmus Hougaard & Jacqueline Carter with Marissa Afton and Rob Stembridge ➤ In "More Human: How the Power of AI Can Transform the Way You Lead," Rasmus Hougaard and Jacqueline Carter challenge the anxiety surrounding AI by arguing that, when used thoughtfully, the technology can actually enhance essential human-centered leadership qualities.
Based on research with CEOs and AI experts, the authors contend that leaders who thoughtfully delegate data processing and repetitive tasks to AI—becoming AI-augmented leaders—free themselves to focus on core human skills like awareness, wisdom, and compassion. The book provides a practical roadmap for leaders to move beyond viewing AI as a threat and instead harness it as a tool to cultivate deeper human connection, make more discerning judgments, and ultimately create more human and high-performing organizations.
Nature and the Human Soul ➤ Bill Plotkin ➤ In "Nature and the Human Soul," Bill Plotkin proposes a visionary ecopsychology of human development, arguing that the pervasive modern yearning for meaning and fulfillment can be addressed by aligning individual growth with the wisdom of the natural world and the human soul.
He presents an eight-stage "Wheel of Life" model for human maturation, distinct from chronological age, that guides individuals from an egocentric, consumerist mindset to an ecocentric, soul-based existence. Plotkin emphasizes that a deep, conscious relationship with wild nature is essential for discovering one's unique purpose or "soul-gift," and that cultivating these gifts collectively can lead to a more sustainable, cooperative, and compassionate society, ultimately fostering individual wholeness and cultural transformation.
New Happy ➤ Stephanie Harrison ➤ In "New Happy," Stephanie Harrison challenges the conventional, often unfulfilling pursuit of happiness—what she terms "Old Happy"—which emphasizes external achievements, perfectionism, and individualism.
Drawing on extensive scientific research, she argues that true and lasting happiness, "New Happy," stems from self-acceptance, authentic connection, and a focus on serving others and contributing to something greater than oneself. Harrison provides practical guidance and insights, often accompanied by visual artwork, to help readers dismantle societal lies about happiness, uncover their unique strengths and "gifts," and use them to create a life filled with purpose, joy, and meaningful relationships, ultimately benefiting both themselves and the wider world.
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Of Boys and Men ➤ Richard V. Reeves ➤ In "Of Boys and Men," Richard Reeves argues that boys and men in modern society are facing significant structural challenges, leading to struggles in education, work, and family life.
He contends that while progress has been made in advancing women's rights, society has largely overlooked or misdiagnosed the declining well-being of males, often dismissing their issues or attributing them solely to "toxic masculinity." Reeves proposes a range of innovative, structural solutions, such as "redshirting" boys in school and actively recruiting men into care professions (Health, Education, Administration, and Literacy), emphasizing that addressing these male-specific challenges is not at odds with gender equality but essential for the health of society as a whole.
Rebels with a Cause ➤ Niobe Way ➤ In "Rebels with a Cause," developmental psychologist Niobe Way argues that the widespread mental health crisis among boys and men, characterized by loneliness, anxiety, and violence, stems from a toxic "boy culture" that devalues and mocks emotional intimacy and close male friendships.
Drawing on over 35 years of research, she reveals that young boys naturally desire and seek deep, loving connections with their friends, but are systematically pressured by society to "man up," leading to a profound "crisis of connection" as they grow into adolescence. Way asserts that this crisis is not just a problem for boys but for everyone, and she advocates for a cultural shift toward "listening with curiosity" to understand and validate boys' emotional needs, ultimately calling on society to take collective responsibility for nurturing the full humanity of all individuals.
ReSoul Revolution ➤ Rachel Salzberg ➤ In "ReSoul Revolution," Rachel Salzberg presents a guide to personal transformation by aligning the brain and the soul, leveraging insights from neuroscience and spirituality.
The book argues that many people are held back by limiting beliefs and dysregulated nervous systems, and that true change comes from reprogramming these internal patterns. Through a series of "ReSoul Micro-Rituals" and a three-part framework, Salzberg provides actionable steps to help readers become more conscious of their thought systems, shift their energetic state, and ultimately lead from a place of authenticity and purpose. The book is designed to help individuals break mental barriers, find inner balance, and tap into their full potential, both personally and professionally.
Scattered Minds ➤ Gabor Mate, M.D. ➤ In "Scattered Minds," Gabor Maté argues that ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is not a genetic disease but a developmental disorder stemming from emotional pain and unfulfilled attachment needs, often rooted in early childhood experiences.
He contends that the core of ADHD is a form of neurobiological defense mechanism—a distraction from emotional hurt—rather than a fixed, inherited condition. Maté provides a compassionate framework for understanding the struggles of both children and adults with ADHD, emphasizing that healing is possible not through medication alone, but by addressing the underlying emotional wounds and creating environments that foster safety, connection, and acceptance, ultimately allowing the individual to reconnect with their authentic self.
SuperBetter ➤ Jane McGonigal ➤ In "SuperBetter," game designer Jane McGonigal argues that the psychological strengths we naturally employ when playing games—such as optimism, creativity, courage, and determination—can be intentionally harnessed to overcome real-life challenges and achieve personal growth.
Drawing on her own recovery from a severe concussion and extensive research into the science of games, McGonigal presents a "gameful" approach to life, outlining how to transform obstacles into engaging quests, identify "power-ups" and "bad guys," recruit "allies," and strive for "epic wins." The book provides a practical framework for building physical, mental, emotional, and social resilience, demonstrating that by adopting a game-like mindset, individuals can become "superbetter" in the face of illness, injury, and everyday setbacks, leading to greater happiness and well-being.
Talk to Your Boys ➤ Joanna Schroeder and Christopher Pepper ➤ In "Talk to Your Boys," Joanna Schroeder and Christopher Pepper provide a practical and urgent guide for parents to foster open communication with their tween and teen sons.
Challenging the outdated notion that boys don't want to talk, the authors equip parents with research-backed strategies, actionable scripts, and conversation starters to address a wide range of crucial topics, including emotions, friendships, screen time, sex, bullying, and mental health. The book emphasizes that cultivating connection and emotional intelligence is paramount for raising confident, caring, and resilient young men who can navigate the complexities of modern masculinity and thrive in a rapidly changing world.
The Alchemist ➤ Paulo Coelho ➤ "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho tells the allegorical story of Santiago, an Andalusian shepherd boy who embarks on a journey to the Egyptian pyramids after repeatedly dreaming of a hidden treasure there.
Guided by mysterious figures like Melchizedek, the King of Salem, and the titular Alchemist, Santiago learns to listen to his heart, understand "the Language of the World," and interpret omens, facing numerous challenges and temptations along the way. The novel's central theme is the pursuit of one's "Personal Legend," emphasizing that when one truly desires something, the entire universe conspires to help achieve it, and that the greatest treasures are often found not in the destination, but in the wisdom gained during the journey itself, often leading back to where one began, but with a transformed understanding.
The Anxious Nation ➤ Jonathan Haidt ➤ In "The Anxious Nation" (also known as "The Anxious Generation"), Jonathan Haidt argues that the dramatic decline in adolescent mental health, marked by rising rates of anxiety, depression, self-harm, and suicide since the early 2010s, is primarily due to two interconnected factors: the decline of play-based childhoods and the pervasive rise of smartphone and social media use.
He contends that an overprotective "safetyism" has restricted children's real-world independence and free play, preventing them from developing essential resilience and social skills, while the "phone-based childhood" has immersed them in a disembodied, performative, and addictive online world that distorts social interaction, fragments attention, disrupts sleep, and exposes them to constant comparison and potential harm. Haidt proposes a "great rewiring" of childhood, advocating for a return to unsupervised play and a ban on smartphones before high school and social media before age 16, emphasizing that these structural changes are necessary to reverse the mental health crisis.
The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting ➤ Sarah Naish ➤ In "The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting," Sarah Naish offers a comprehensive and practical guide for parents and caregivers raising children who have experienced trauma, attachment difficulties, or early adversity.
The book emphasizes that challenging behaviors in these children are often a direct result of their past experiences and a dysregulated nervous system, rather than intentional defiance. Naish provides an accessible "A-Z" format addressing over 60 common issues, offering insights into why these behaviors occur and, crucially, providing a range of nurturing, empathetic, and evidence-based strategies for parents to respond effectively, build secure attachments, regulate their children's emotions, and ultimately foster healing and resilience.
The Biology of Trauma ➤ Aimie Apigian, MD ➤ In "The Biology of Trauma," Aimie Apigian, a functional medicine physician and trauma expert, posits that trauma is not merely a psychological or emotional event, but an experience deeply encoded within the body's biology, influencing cellular function, the nervous system, and overall health.
She argues that traditional approaches often miss the physiological roots of trauma, leading to persistent symptoms like chronic fatigue, anxiety, and autoimmune conditions. Apigian's book aims to reveal how the body absorbs overwhelming experiences, identify overlooked biological trauma symptoms, and provide practical tools to work with the nervous system, emphasizing that true healing involves addressing trauma at a cellular level to facilitate complete recovery and prevent biological changes that hinder the healing process.
The Body Does Not Keep the Score ➤ Michael Scheeringa ➤ In "The Body Does Not Keep the Score," psychiatrist Michael Scheeringa challenges the central premise of Bessel van der Kolk's popular book, arguing that post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is primarily a disorder of cognition and memory, not a physical condition stored in the body.
Scheeringa contends that symptoms of PTSD arise from maladaptive cognitive processes and learned associations, not from physiological changes that require body-based therapies. He asserts that standard, evidence-based cognitive and exposure therapies are the most effective treatments for PTSD and that the widespread adoption of somatic-based therapies is not only unproven but may distract from more effective, empirically supported interventions. The book aims to provide a counter-narrative to the current popular discourse on trauma, re-emphasizing a cognitive-behavioral framework for understanding and treating the condition.
The Body Keeps the Score ➤ Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD ➤ In "The Body Keeps the Score," Bessel van der Kolk explores the profound and lasting impact of psychological trauma on the brain, mind, and body.
Drawing on decades of clinical experience and research, he demonstrates how traumatic experiences, from childhood neglect to combat exposure, literally reshape neural pathways and alter physiological systems, leading to a wide range of issues including anxiety, depression, addiction, and even physical ailments. Van der Kolk argues that conventional talk therapy often falls short because trauma is stored in the "feeling brain" and the body, beyond the reach of language. He advocates for a holistic approach to healing that incorporates body-based therapies like yoga, EMDR, and neurofeedback, alongside traditional methods, to help survivors regain a sense of self-control, re-engage with the present, and ultimately heal from the deep wounds of trauma.
The Courage to be Disliked ➤ Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga ➤ "The Courage to be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, presented as a dialogue between a young man and a philosopher, introduces the core tenets of Alfred Adler's individual psychology.
The book asserts that happiness is not determined by past trauma or external circumstances, but by our own choices and the meaning we assign to our experiences. It argues that all problems are interpersonal, stemming from a desire for recognition or fear of disapproval, and encourages readers to cultivate "the courage to be disliked" by focusing on their own tasks, contributing to the community, and building horizontal (equal) relationships, rather than seeking external validation or engaging in competition. Ultimately, the book champions self-acceptance, personal freedom, and a sense of belonging as the keys to true happiness.
The Craving Mind ➤ Judson Brewer ➤ In "The Craving Mind," Judson Brewer, a neuroscientist and addiction psychiatrist, reveals how cravings—whether for substances like nicotine, behaviors like checking social media, or even thoughts and emotions—are rooted in the brain's reward-based learning system.
He explains that these habits are formed through a cycle of trigger, behavior, and reward, and that our brains are often "hijacked" into repeatedly seeking temporary pleasure even when it leads to negative consequences. Drawing on scientific research and personal anecdotes, Brewer demonstrates that by understanding these mechanisms and applying mindfulness practices, we can "disenchant" ourselves from the allure of cravings, interrupt addictive loops, and ultimately find greater freedom and well-being by simply becoming curious about our experiences rather than blindly reacting to them.
The Creative Act: A Way of Being ➤ Rick Rubin ➤ In "The Creative Act: A Way of Being," legendary music producer Rick Rubin shares his philosophy on creativity, framing it not as a skill to be mastered but as a fundamental and mystical aspect of human existence.
He argues that creativity is an innate quality that everyone possesses and can cultivate by becoming a better "vessel" for inspiration. Through a series of insights, prompts, and personal anecdotes, Rubin encourages a mindset of intentionality, curiosity, and surrender, advising readers to quiet their minds, pay attention to the world around them, and embrace the collaborative dance between artist and universe. The book serves as a guide for anyone looking to unlock their creative potential, emphasizing that the act of creating is itself a spiritual practice that leads to a more fulfilling and authentic life.
The Four Agreements ➤ Don Miguel Ruiz ➤ In "The Four Agreements," Don Miguel Ruiz presents a simple yet profound code of conduct derived from ancient Toltec wisdom, designed to transform one's life by challenging deeply ingrained, self-limiting beliefs and behaviors.
The four agreements—Be Impeccable with Your Word, Don't Take Anything Personally, Don't Make Assumptions, and Always Do Your Best—serve as powerful guidelines for cultivating self-awareness, personal freedom, and unconditional love. Ruiz argues that by consistently practicing these agreements, individuals can break free from the "domestication" of societal conditioning, heal emotional wounds, and create a life filled with joy, peace, and authenticity, ultimately leading to a personal heaven on Earth.
The Myth of Normal ➤ Gabor Mate with Daniel Mate ➤ In "The Myth of Normal," Gabor Maté argues that many of the chronic physical and mental illnesses prevalent in Western societies are not simply individual pathologies but rather normal, adaptive responses to an abnormal, toxic culture.
He posits that societal pressures, particularly those rooted in capitalism and individualism, foster trauma, stress, and disconnection, leading individuals to suppress their authentic selves and unmet emotional needs. This suppression, often starting in childhood due to a conflict between the need for attachment and the need for authenticity, manifests as various health issues, from autoimmune diseases and addiction to anxiety and depression. Maté critiques the medical system's tendency to treat symptoms rather than address these underlying root causes and advocates for a more holistic, compassionate approach to healing that acknowledges the profound mind-body connection and the pervasive impact of cultural toxicity.
The Origins of You ➤ Vienna Pharaon ➤ In "The Origins of You," licensed marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon argues that our adult behaviors, particularly in relationships, are deeply influenced by unhealed "origin wounds" from our family of origin.
She contends that these childhood experiences—whether from neglect, criticism, or a lack of safety—create core emotional wounds related to our sense of worthiness, belonging, trust, and safety. Pharaon guides readers through a process of identifying and understanding these root causes, using a compassionate framework that empowers them to break dysfunctional family patterns. The book provides practical tools, personal stories, and actionable exercises to help individuals consciously confront and heal their past, ultimately leading to healthier, more authentic relationships and a more liberated way of life.
The Poisoned Arrow ➤ Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. ➤ In "The Poisoned Arrow," Don Miguel Ruiz Jr., son of the author of "The Four Agreements," builds upon his family's Toltec wisdom to explore how self-doubt, criticism, and fear act as "poisoned arrows" that we shoot at ourselves.
He argues that these arrows, born from unhealed emotional wounds and societal conditioning, create an internal narrative that prevents us from experiencing genuine happiness and freedom. Ruiz Jr. provides a practical guide, using his "Map of Awareness," to help readers identify the root causes of their self-sabotage, release these harmful beliefs, and ultimately learn to un-shoot the poisoned arrows, thereby transforming their relationship with themselves and living a life based on unconditional self-love and acceptance.
The Power of Now ➤ Eckhart Tolle ➤ In "The Power of Now," Eckhart Tolle introduces the core concept that most human suffering stems from an overidentification with the "mind"—the constant stream of thoughts, worries about the future, and regrets about the past.
He argues that true peace and enlightenment are found by realizing that the only reality is the present moment, "the Now." Through various insights and practical exercises, Tolle guides readers to disengage from this mental chatter, recognize their true self as the awareness underlying thought, and fully inhabit the present, thereby dissolving pain, fear, and emotional turmoil to experience deep inner peace and joy.
The Righteous Mind ➤ Jonathan Haidt ➤ In "The Righteous Mind," Jonathan Haidt argues that human morality is not solely based on rational thought but is fundamentally rooted in a set of innate, evolutionarily developed moral intuitions.
He introduces a "Moral Foundations Theory," which identifies six primary foundations: Care/Harm, Liberty/Oppression, Fairness/Cheating, Loyalty/Betrayal, Authority/Subversion, and Sanctity/Degradation. Haidt posits that these foundations serve as a kind of moral taste bud, with liberals primarily relying on the first three, while conservatives utilize all six, leading to a profound "moral schism" in politics. He uses the metaphor that intuition comes first, and strategic reasoning is used to justify our pre-existing beliefs—"the elephant rides the rider"—ultimately advocating for a deeper understanding of these different moral frameworks to bridge political divides and improve communication between people.
The Untethered Soul ➤ Michael A. Singer ➤ In "The Untethered Soul," Michael A. Singer invites readers on a profound journey of self-discovery, positing that true freedom and inner peace are found by transcending the ego and observing one's thoughts and emotions from a detached, centered awareness.
He argues that our constant internal chatter and identification with our mental and emotional states are the root of suffering, creating a "thorn in the mind" that prevents us from experiencing the inherent joy and expansiveness of consciousness. Through simple yet powerful insights, Singer encourages readers to develop the "witness consciousness," allowing them to release blockages, confront fears, and ultimately live from a place of unconditional love and openness, untethered from the limitations of the self-created mind.
The World Doesn't Need You ➤ Lawrence Ford ➤ In "The World Doesn't Need You," Lawrence Ford challenges the pervasive modern mindset of seeking validation and worth through outward achievement, societal metrics, and a self-centered focus.
Ford argues that the path to true purpose and profound happiness lies in a radical shift away from needing the world to need you and toward a deep understanding of what the world is—a perspective he calls "Ecstatic Gratitude." The book guides readers to move past ego-driven goals and into a space of surrender, presence, and reverence for life itself, asserting that by relinquishing the demand for external necessity, we can find genuine peace and connect to a purpose far greater than personal ambition.
Thrive ➤ Lisa M. Lawson ➤ In "Thrive," Lisa Lawson argues that breakthroughs in adolescent brain science reveal that young people require stable relationships, meaningful opportunities, and strong support to successfully transition into adulthood.
Drawing from her work at the Annie E. Casey Foundation, Lawson contends that public systems and institutions are often failing to provide these essentials, especially for disadvantaged youth. The book serves as a call to action for parents, policymakers, and communities to understand the unequal experiences of adolescence and to create the structural support needed to ensure that all children have an equal chance to thrive, ultimately benefiting society as a whole.
Together ➤ Vivek H. Murthy, MD ➤ In "Together," Dr. Vivek Murthy, former U.S. Surgeon General, posits that loneliness is a pervasive and under-recognized public health crisis, as detrimental to health as smoking or obesity.
He argues that despite increasing digital connectivity, modern society fosters isolation, leading to a decline in both physical and mental well-being across all age groups. Murthy delves into the evolutionary and biological roots of human connection, demonstrating our innate need for social bonds, and explains how their absence triggers a stress response that harms our health. He advocates for a societal shift towards fostering genuine human connection in our families, communities, and workplaces, emphasizing that building strong, meaningful relationships is the key to combating loneliness and creating a healthier, more resilient society.
Touching the Jaguar ➤ John Perkins ➤ In "Touching the Jaguar," John Perkins recounts his transformative journey from an "economic hit man" – a role he exposed in his earlier work, where he helped exploit developing nations for corporate gain – to an impassioned activist dedicated to transforming a destructive "Death Economy" into a sustainable "Life Economy."
Drawing on experiences with Amazonian shamans, who taught him to "touch the jaguar" by confronting and transforming fears into positive action, Perkins details how he came to recognize the devastating impact of his past work. The book advocates for a radical shift in global economic systems and individual perceptions, emphasizing that by addressing our fears and changing our worldview, we can collectively work to protect the planet and foster a more equitable and regenerative future.
Unblock Your Purpose ➤ Francesca Sipma ➤ In "Unblock Your Purpose," Francesca Sipma presents a revolutionary approach to personal growth called HypnoBreathwork, which she developed to help individuals overcome subconscious blocks and discover their true purpose.
Drawing from her own journey of leaving a high-stress corporate job to find meaning, Sipma argues that many of us are held back by unhealed emotional wounds and limiting beliefs. The book offers a practical, step-by-step guide on how to combine conscious breathing with hypnotic visualization to rewire the mind, clear away old habits, and access a state of flow. By blending spiritual principles with scientific insights, Sipma provides a powerful methodology for readers to heal from the past, tap into their intuition, and align with their purpose for a more fulfilling and successful life.
Upstream ➤ Dan Heath ➤ In "Upstream," Dan Heath argues that society is often trapped in a reactive "downstream" mindset, constantly addressing problems after they've occurred rather than proactively preventing them.
He champions an "upstream" approach, which involves identifying and solving systemic issues before they create widespread harm. Through compelling stories and research, Heath outlines three crucial forces that push people and organizations downstream—problem blindness, a lack of ownership, and tunneling—and provides a practical framework for shifting to upstream thinking, emphasizing the importance of measurement, cross-sector collaboration, and early intervention to create lasting, impactful change.
Wherever You Go, There You Are ➤ Jon Kabat-Zinn ➤ In "Wherever You Go, There You Are," Jon Kabat-Zinn offers an accessible introduction to mindfulness, emphasizing that it's not about achieving a special state, but rather about bringing present-moment, non-judgmental awareness to whatever is happening in one's life.
He argues that in our busy, often distracted lives, we frequently miss the richness of the present by being caught up in thoughts about the past or future. Through simple exercises and profound insights, Kabat-Zinn guides readers to cultivate a mindful approach to daily activities, stress, pain, and emotions, demonstrating that by fully inhabiting the present moment, we can find greater clarity, peace, and wisdom, regardless of our external circumstances.
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